Fore play is a vital element of a happy and successful martial life. It should never be neglected. It is absolutely vital that a man arouse his wife sexually via foreplay before indulging in sexual intercourse. It is indeed callous and selfish that he fulfils his desires like an animal while his wife experiences no sensation whatsoever. This is extremely demoralizing for the women and has terrible consequences for the couple and their marriage.
Therefore every couple should take the trouble of exploring those regions of each other’s anatomy that will arouse their desires and heighten their pleasure. These areas are known as the “erogenous zones”. They vary from person to person but are generally concentrated in the upper body are and the below the naval, if stroked tenderly, cause the sexual desires to rise and passions to be kindled.
Even in this regard we find the beautiful teaching of Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) a guidance for us; that in very subtle manner he impressed upon his companions (Radiyallahu-Anhum) importance and necessity of foreplay with the wife. For example:-
It is narrated in the Ahadith that once Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) came to know that Hazrat Jabir “(Radiyallhu-Anhum) had married a widow. He said: “Why did you not marry a virgin whom you could play with and Who would play with you?” BUKHARI, MUSLIM
This is a subtle indication towards love play or foreplay between the couple.
Furthermore, the importance of expressing love and feelings towards each other can be learned from the Ahadith of Rasulullah(Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) that go to this effect that when a husband or wife gaze at each other with love and affection, Allah (Azza-wa-Jall) gazes at them with mercy and kindness. When the husband and wife hold each others hands with love and affection, Allah Ta’ala forgives their sins.
If the wife is breast-feeding, caution should be observed that no milk enters the throat during the course of loveplay. It is Makroohe-Tahrimi for the husband to drink the milk of his wife. If any person, out of ignorance has transgressed this regulation of the Shariah, the only form of expiation is a sincere taubah and repetance. However, this does not affect the bond of nikah as is the misconception of many people.